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For life goes not uncultured nor tarries with yesterday.
Where were you when on that terrible day?
Until ten years ago, during my lifetime at least, that dispute midpoint always pertained to the day the shots rang out and killed Kennedy; his presidency the seeming symbol of refreshed and restored hope to a persons that had been bruised, bloodied and battered by two following World Wars.
All those lives lost.
All those sons and daughters, fathers, mothers, brothers and sisters.
Some seared alive even.
And, then, a follow at rebirth.
Until shots rang out from a grassy hillock and killed it.
On the day that John F. Kennedy was killed, ironically, I was the exact same age and in the exact duplicate superiority as my son was on the day that the Twin Towers fell ten years ago. But all those many years earlier I was sitting and playing with Play Doh on a tiny worn and wooden desk. How do I remember that? I don’t know. I do, however, remember the Dominican sisters of Saint Aloysius packing us all up, one by one, as some took our hands while others reached for their structure handkerchiefs pulling them out from some secrecy dormant cranny beneath the innards of their threatening and white habits.
Never showing outright emotion, those nuns would quickly, midpoint secretly, wipe the tears away from their own eyes as they called us, one by one, to sequence up in the front of the classroom. I met my sister as the classes piled out into the hallway and we headed out to the parking mound led by another loner who had no intention of holding her molest back. Her crying kept us all quiet in our concern.
And then I remember my mother silently sobbing the whole case she drove all of us back home.
Back to the abode that had oil portraits of all four of her young and one of President Kennedy himself unsettled in our living room. As if he were somehow blood of our blood.
John Kennedy took a place of honor alongside her family on the living room walls while the portrait of the Pope hung in a less prestigious place in the dining one.
And so was the pecking order in my Irish Catholic household.
Where were you when that awful day happened?
That expired inquiry now gains new meaning as I suspect any one of us consign ever conjecture to put Kennedy to that problem again.
Terror and transfiguration changed all that.
A scarcely over ten years ago we had only moderate moved here to Virginia from New York. I didn’t absence to come.
My wedding was in a department of devolving disrepair and shambles and I knew it was over. After twenty article years.
Over. I knew practically no one in this town either drop my then husband’s perfect family.
Who couldn’t exactly ever cotton to the Irish sassy lassy blonde from New York who stole the marrow of their homeboy.
Nope, they could barely tolerate me, bless their hearts.
And if you’re from the South you comprehend exactly what the last quota of that sentence means.
I was lonely and scared and had the wonderful flair and opportunity of telling that to my boon partner Kathleen each and every day as we had fallen into that equivalent grade of daily early morning phone chatter routine.
I’d already dropped my son at his kindergarten that September 11 morning and would come home to denominate Kath, as usual, so that we could desire together and stratagem what I would do when I would finally establish a set of balls and stop and we’d chat of what she would do if she glaring to go back to work. Yup, the usual. Mostly.
That day though, body not usual. Her obtain husband, Pete, whose keep career took him into the Twin Towers daily hadn’t recent in to the City on that day because he’d had an appearance breakfast meeting to attend.
So we talked about that.
And how she hoped he might lattice there and find a new station at his expired company.
I can remember that particular phone dub and the ensuing events if it were yesterday.
I was sitting on my son’s bed and had ‘Good Morning America’ on the television in the background.
We were utterance about nothing, she and I. Just nothing. As girlfriends on the phone often do. And, then, I spied, out of the alcove of my eye, an explosion producing plumes of smoke and a immense inflame inception to engulf that top tower. I sat transfixed to the television.
I stammered and stumbled off the boy’s bed and shakily told Kath to turn on her tv. I was pacing and I was POSITIVE that some pet plane pilot MUST have had a heart assault and tragically, mistakenly, absent curb or even his life before slumping in his cockpit and careening into that building. I mean, what further solution could there be? We sat in stunned silence, Kath on her later and I on mine, and all I could hear above Peter Jennings anxious voice was our have soundless breathing on the phone.
We vocal nothingness to one another. Nothing. This instance literally.
Until she whispered, “that’s Pete’s building. ”
And, then, the unthinkable.
The latter plane.
The closing tower.
I don’t remember if we even said goodbye to one another. All I could believe of at that moment was my son.
And as my obtain mother had done decades earlier, I gathered my wits and my keys and clear to go and take him from his school. Grab him and hold him recognized as could be.
Our persons was under attack. The Pentagon had not yet been hit and Todd Beamer and those heros hadn’t yet “rolled” and yet, intuitively, instinctively, I knew I had to be with my boy.
At the moment that I opened my cause door to leave, another comrade whose son attended the duplicate school, pulled up in bob of my house and motioned to me.
” C’mon El, let’s go!”
I jumped in the passenger seat and we didn’t posses to chat a phenomenon to one another. The pain was palpable.
I was shaking. She was smoking. And then I started to cry.
And, then, so did she.
My kernel was breaking as I wondered if my elite comrade from lanky school, my gist sister Patty, had perished in her assistance in the elite tower. Patty’s mother is the only ‘grandmother’ my son has ever known.
My obtain mother had passed well before my kid was born.
His dad’s mother was not involved.
To this day he passive refers to Patty’s mom as ‘Nana,’ and to this day ‘Nana’ torpid sends him a twenty dollar brochure every Christmas.
I wondered if Ava’s husband Michael was in his office in the closing tower that morning. I am the godmother to their youngeset daughter Paige.
My extended families.
And, then, there were the friends.
I knew almost the whole Cantor attestation trading floor. After having spent twenty years trading commodities on Wall Street, I knew a collection of kin posting buy/sells in that building. Did they survive? Were they alive? Were their families watching these horrific scenes manoeuvre out the same way I had been watching? I midpoint couldn’t perceive the worry.
The panic. The terror.
I couldn’t plumb terrorists.
Driving partly too slowly to the school, we sat, Dina and I stunned, sniffling, reveling, remembering (she’s from New York as well) until we took a left off the prime drag and drove up in vanguard of Broad Bay Manor. I don’t comprehend why, but we hadn’t expected what we saw. There, in the parking lot was a throng of parents waiting for their tiny progeny too. Waiting in a car column that snaked around the whole building. Twice.
All these parents coming to recoup their precious ones.
We were all doing the duplicate item that my keep mother had done all those many years ago when innocence shattered shook this country.
I look around for my son.
I notice the marked woebegone of the sky.
The sun luminous so receptive it bully my eyes.
The tune so crisp and clean, not yet filled with the coming dread.
It didn’t counterpart up, the events I’d unbiased witnessed and the midpoint Divine perfection of the day.
It didn’t go together. Maybe it wasn’t real? Maybe it didn’t happen after all? Maybe I would wake up and inactive be in a crappy connubial but wouldn’t hold to wonder if people I knew and loved had died without warning.
And it was then, waiting in what seemed to be an interminable car line, that all of a sudden a song from Grayson’s infancy began to play, over and over and over again in my head.
See, my son was not a benefit sleeper as a bitty baby.
I was forced to fashion some quality of soothing and nightly ritual and way to be able to lull him into any superiority of slumber, a ritual that once worked through further worked well into his toddler years.
A quota of that ritual was playing the equivalent music cassette to and for him night after night after night.
For years and years and years.
His reaction was Pavlovian.
Apparently mine was imprinted.
Because on that musical cassette was a poem put to song, the lyrics or lines written by the peaceful, esoteric and otherworldly poet Kahlil Gibran.
The speaking of that song now stuck singing out in my probe as if they were being piped in by a Mothership nautical somewhere far, far in the heavens above.
I couldn’t teeter them. I couldn’t delay them. Louder and louder. Competing with my uncommonly nucleus trying to attain my whole attention.
‘Your progeny are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s desire for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. ”
We inch up a crumb closer to the exit door of the school. I imagine I hear Dina say object about the radio recounting relatives jumping from the upper floors of the towers.
They are jumping to their deaths, picking that sliver of hope of survival as opposed to surely perishing by fire.
People are jumping. They are moulding choices about the routine in which they will, in all likelihood, die.
Others on the streets under watch unimaginable horror.
I illustration these images in my mind’s eye but can’t concentrate because that music, those poetic speaking from Kibran hold competing. They effectively flood the outer din.
“You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they retain their hold thoughts.
You may domicile their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the dwelling of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not crude nor tarries with yesterday.
I see him. I finally see him. My boy.
His derisory blonde commander pops up every once in awhile bobbing between the two taller boys that are sandwiching him. He looks so happy.
He looks so little.
He looks around.
And he sees me.
And he waves.
Like infrequently boys who see their mother’s in escort of them often do. And I gesture back. Although I can’t really make him out now fresh than a wavy scenario since the tears in my eyes, tears of gratitude, tears of exaltation at seeing him, tears of heartbreaking sadness and grief all converge and well up and dissuade me from really seeing anything, at all, clearly.
I perceive like I might not be able to see anything markedly ever again.
The car continues to creep a bit supplementary and the epiphany occurs.
And it sounds logical like the last lines of that Kibran poem:
“You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the tab upon the circumgyration of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go hasty and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s workman be for gladness;
For even as He loves the bodkin that flies,
so He loves moreover the fawn that is stable.
Only heart survives.
And Patty did too. After the birth of her third child and unable to totter that ripening weight, she’d been attending a Weight Watchers meeting in dilute Manhattan when the tragedies took place.
She remembers leaving the weigh in to run back to her office because she’d left her purse there.
A few feet out that Weight Watcher’s door some stranger rotten her around and told her to “run for her life.
” She did.
And was safe.
Only love survives.
And Michael did too. He, like Kathleen’s husband Peter, had a meeting outside his office that morning and although he’d past back to the towers, he’d been able to achieve out of Manhattan and eventually make it home safely as well.
Only passion survives.
The Cantor Fitzgerald traders did not.
Thousands of responders did not.
All those different slant passengers did not.
“For even as He loves the pointer that flies, so He loves besides the kneel that is stable.
Because, only feelings survives.
Because our spirits are inextinguishable.
The sadness, the loss, the thirst for still consign weaken and die.
Love and our spirits survive.
That is not a prayer. It is a promise.
Where were you on that terrible day?
Where was I?
No, I wasn’t speech to Kathleen on the phone or watching Peter Jennings on tv. I wasn’t with Dina driving down Great Neck Road or election up my oblivious son from school. I wasn’t worrying and wondering about Patty, Peter, Michael or all the many others I knew working inside those two towers.
I was education firsthand that only heart survives and that our spirits are inextinguishable.
I can only hope that many, many, many others hold judicious that identical same address since that alike day as well.
Because armed with that knowledge, rebirth can never ever be shot and killed again.