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For life goes not crude nor tarries with yesterday.
Where were you when on that powerful day?
Until ten years ago, during my lifetime at least, that problem almost always pertained to the day the shots rang out and killed Kennedy; his presidency the seeming character of refreshed and restored hope to a tribe that had been bruised, bloodied and battered by two later World Wars.
All those lives lost.
All those sons and daughters, fathers, mothers, brothers and sisters.
Some scorched alive even.
And, then, a happen at rebirth.
Until shots rang out from a grassy hill and killed it.
On the day that John F. Kennedy was killed, ironically, I was the exact twin age and in the exact same superiority as my son was on the day that the Twin Towers fell ten years ago. But all those many years earlier I was sitting and playing with Play Doh on a tiny worn and wooden desk. How do I remember that? I don’t know. I do, however, remember the Dominican sisters of Saint Aloysius wrapping us all up, one by one, as some took our hands while others reached for their framework handkerchiefs pulling them out from some secrecy dormant nook underneath the belly of their sinisteru and white habits.
Never showing outright emotion, those nuns would quickly, midpoint secretly, wipe the tears away from their have eyes as they called us, one by one, to chain up in the bob of the classroom. I met my sister as the classes piled out into the hallway and we headed out to the parking lot led by another eremite who had no intention of holding her abuse back. Her crying kept us all stillness in our concern.
And then I remember my mother silently sobbing the whole situation she drove all of us back home.
Back to the abode that had oil portraits of all four of her spawn and one of President Kennedy himself pending in our living room. As if he were somehow blood of our blood.
John Kennedy took a cubby-hole of honor alongside her family on the living room walls while the portrait of the Pope hung in a less prestigious cubby-hole in the dining one.
And so was the pecking rule in my Irish Catholic household.
Where were you when that awful day happened?
That obsolete inquiry now gains new meaning as I query any one of us bequeath ever reckon to put Kennedy to that matter again.
Terror and transfiguration changed all that.
A seldom over ten years ago we had only equitable moved here to Virginia from New York. I didn’t scarcity to come.
My conjugal was in a territory of devolving disrepair and shambles and I knew it was over. After twenty phenomenon years.
Over. I knew practically no one in this town either eliminate my then husband’s flawless family.
Who couldn’t exactly ever cotton to the Irish sassy lassy blonde from New York who stole the gist of their homeboy.
Nope, they could barely tolerate me, bless their hearts.
And if you’re from the South you notice exactly what the last allocation of that sentence means.
I was lonely and scared and had the wonderful knack and opportunity of telling that to my prime friend Kathleen each and every day as we had fallen into that twin quality of daily early morning phone prattle routine.
I’d already dropped my son at his kindergarten that September 11 morning and would come home to entitle Kath, as usual, so that we could daydream together and ploy what I would do when I would finally grow a coagulate of balls and vacate and we’d prate of what she would do if she pronounced to go back to work. Yup, the usual. Mostly.
That day though, article not usual. Her have husband, Pete, whose retain job took him into the Twin Towers daily hadn’t foregone in to the City on that day because he’d had an front breakfast meeting to attend.
So we talked about that.
And how she hoped he might framework there and find a new grade at his void company.
I can remember that particular phone label and the ensuing events if it were yesterday.
I was sitting on my son’s bed and had ‘Good Morning America’ on the television in the background.
We were speaking about nothing, she and I. Just nothing. As girlfriends on the phone often do. And, then, I spied, out of the nook of my eye, an explosion producing plumes of smoke and a colossal kindle start to engulf that boon tower. I sat transfixed to the television.
I stammered and stumbled off the boy’s bed and shakily told Kath to turn on her tv. I was pacing and I was POSITIVE that some maid plane aviator MUST keep had a soul onset and tragically, mistakenly, missing domesticate or even his life before slumping in his cockpit and careening into that building. I mean, what other solution could there be? We sat in stunned silence, Kath on her end and I on mine, and all I could hear above Peter Jennings tight voice was our obtain silent breathing on the phone.
We verbal nothing to one another. Nothing. This situation literally.
Until she whispered, “that’s Pete’s building. ”
And, then, the unthinkable.
The second plane.
The hindmost tower.
I don’t remember if we even said goodbye to one another. All I could surmise of at that moment was my son.
And as my own mother had done decades earlier, I gathered my wits and my keys and decided to go and snatch him from his school. Grab him and hold him known as could be.
Our persons was beneath attack. The Pentagon had not yet been hit and Todd Beamer and those heros hadn’t yet “rolled” and yet, intuitively, instinctively, I knew I had to be with my boy.
At the moment that I opened my bob door to leave, another partner whose son attended the same school, pulled up in front of my house and motioned to me.
” C’mon El, let’s go!”
I jumped in the passenger seat and we didn’t keep to prate a entity to one another. The pain was palpable.
I was shaking. She was smoking. And then I started to cry.
And, then, so did she.
My pith was breaking as I wondered if my first person from tall school, my soul sister Patty, had perished in her assistance in the elite tower. Patty’s mother is the only ‘grandmother’ my son has ever known.
My keep mother had passed well before my lad was born.
His dad’s mother was not involved.
To this day he quiescent refers to Patty’s mom as ‘Nana,’ and to this day ‘Nana’ dormant sends him a twenty dollar booklet every Christmas.
I wondered if Ava’s husband Michael was in his office in the hindmost tower that morning. I am the godmother to their youngeset daughter Paige.
My extended families.
And, then, there were the friends.
I knew halfway the flawless Cantor avowal trading floor. After having spent twenty years trading commodities on Wall Street, I knew a mass of family posting buy/sells in that building. Did they survive? Were they alive? Were their families watching these horrific scenes gambit out the identical manner I had been watching? I midpoint couldn’t sound the worry.
The panic. The terror.
I couldn’t divine terrorists.
Driving almost too slowly to the school, we sat, Dina and I stunned, sniffling, reveling, remembering (she’s from New York as well) until we took a left off the main drag and drove up in lead of Broad Bay Manor. I don’t understand why, but we hadn’t expected what we saw. There, in the parking pile was a throng of parents waiting for their tiny issue too. Waiting in a car row that snaked around the flawless building. Twice.
All these parents coming to regain their precious ones.
We were all doing the same article that my obtain mother had done all those many years ago when innocence shattered shook this country.
I look around for my son.
I edict the marked blue of the sky.
The sun radiant so receptive it injure my eyes.
The rhythm so concise and clean, not yet filled with the coming dread.
It didn’t counterpart up, the events I’d unbiased witnessed and the nearly Divine perfection of the day.
It didn’t go together. Maybe it wasn’t real? Maybe it didn’t happen after all? Maybe I would wake up and inactive be in a crappy marriage but wouldn’t obtain to wonder if kinsfolk I knew and loved had died without warning.
And it was then, waiting in what seemed to be an interminable car line, that all of a sudden a song from Grayson’s infancy began to play, over and over and over again in my head.
See, my son was not a gain sleeper as a bitty baby.
I was forced to establish some superiority of soothing and nightly ritual and style to be able to lull him into any superiority of slumber, a ritual that once worked through also worked well into his toddler years.
A slice of that ritual was playing the same rhythm cassette to and for him night after night after night.
For years and years and years.
His response was Pavlovian.
Apparently mine was imprinted.
Because on that melodic cassette was a poem put to song, the lyrics or lines written by the peaceful, abstruse and otherworldly poet Kahlil Gibran.
The talking of that song now stuck singing out in my captain as if they were being piped in by a Mothership seafaring somewhere far, far in the heavens above.
I couldn’t shake them. I couldn’t pause them. Louder and louder. Competing with my very centre trying to achieve my complete attention.
‘Your progeny are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s hankering for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. ”
We inch up a crumb closer to the exit door of the school. I imagine I hear Dina talk body about the radio recounting kin jumping from the upper floors of the towers.
They are jumping to their deaths, picking that sliver of hope of survival as opposed to surely perishing by fire.
People are jumping. They are production choices about the fashion in which they will, in all likelihood, die.
Others on the streets unbefitting guard unimaginable horror.
I portrayal these images in my mind’s eye but can’t concentrate because that music, those poetic utterance from Kibran keep competing. They effectively steep the outer din.
“You may grant them your love but not your thoughts,
For they posses their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the quarters of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not unenlightened nor tarries with yesterday.
I see him. I finally see him. My boy.
His meagre blonde leader pops up every once in awhile bobbing between the two taller boys that are sandwiching him. He looks so happy.
He looks so little.
He looks around.
And he sees me.
And he waves.
Like little boys who see their mother’s in front of them often do. And I gesticulate back. Although I can’t really make him out now more than a wavy plot since the tears in my eyes, tears of gratitude, tears of ecstasy at seeing him, tears of heartbreaking sadness and grief all converge and well up and deter me from really seeing anything, at all, clearly.
I caress like I might not be able to see anything distinctly ever again.
The car continues to creep a mouthful more and the epiphany occurs.
And it sounds logical like the last lines of that Kibran poem:
“You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the tag upon the circle of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go express and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s menial be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves besides the kneel that is stable.
Only affection survives.
And Patty did too. After the birth of her third baby and unable to falter that incubation weight, she’d been attending a Weight Watchers meeting in cut Manhattan when the tragedies took place.
She remembers leaving the weigh in to run back to her office because she’d left her purse there.
A few feet out that Weight Watcher’s door some stranger high her around and told her to “run for her life.
” She did.
And was safe.
Only love survives.
And Michael did too. He, like Kathleen’s husband Peter, had a meeting appearance his office that morning and although he’d recent back to the towers, he’d been able to attain out of Manhattan and eventually make it home safely as well.
Only affection survives.
The Cantor Fitzgerald traders did not.
Thousands of responders did not.
All those different plane passengers did not.
“For even as He loves the pointer that flies, so He loves also the toady that is stable.
Because, only love survives.
Because our spirits are inextinguishable.
The sadness, the loss, the desire for peace will decline and die.
Love and our spirits survive.
That is not a prayer. It is a promise.
Where were you on that powerful day?
Where was I?
No, I wasn’t speaking to Kathleen on the phone or watching Peter Jennings on tv. I wasn’t with Dina driving down Great Neck Road or selection up my oblivious son from school. I wasn’t worrying and wondering about Patty, Peter, Michael or all the many others I knew working inside those two towers.
I was letters firsthand that only affection survives and that our spirits are inextinguishable.
I can only hope that many, many, many others hold politic that alike same lecture since that equivalent day as well.
Because armed with that knowledge, rebirth can never ever be shot and killed again.