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For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
Where were you when on that powerful day?
Until ten years ago, during my lifetime at least, that question halfway always pertained to the day the shots rang out and killed Kennedy; his presidency the seeming figure of refreshed and restored hope to a individuals that had been bruised, bloodied and battered by two later World Wars.
All those lives lost.
All those sons and daughters, fathers, mothers, brothers and sisters.
Some scorched alive even.
And, then, a chance at rebirth.
Until shots rang out from a grassy knoll and killed it.
On the day that John F. Kennedy was killed, ironically, I was the exact twin age and in the exact twin superiority as my son was on the day that the Twin Towers fell ten years ago. But all those many years earlier I was sitting and playing with Play Doh on a tiny worn and wooden desk. How do I remember that? I don’t know. I do, however, remember the Dominican sisters of Saint Aloysius stuffing us all up, one by one, as some took our hands while others reached for their textile handkerchiefs pulling them out from some secret dormant nook below the intestines of their threatening and white habits.
Never showing outright emotion, those nuns would quickly, almost secretly, wipe the tears away from their posses eyes as they called us, one by one, to string up in the surpass of the classroom. I met my sister as the classes piled out into the hallway and we headed out to the parking stack led by another loner who had no intention of holding her abuse back. Her crying kept us all peace in our concern.
And then I remember my mother silently sobbing the whole case she drove all of us back home.
Back to the house that had oil portraits of all four of her issue and one of President Kennedy himself hanging in our living room. As if he were somehow blood of our blood.
John Kennedy took a alcove of honor alongside her children on the living room walls while the portrait of the Pope hung in a less prestigious niche in the dining one.
And so was the pecking order in my Irish Catholic household.
Where were you when that mighty day happened?
That lapsed inquiry now gains new meaning as I question any one of us commit ever imagine to put Kennedy to that matter again.
Terror and transfiguration changed all that.
A rarely over ten years ago we had only just moved here to Virginia from New York. I didn’t absence to come.
My conjugal was in a state of devolving disrepair and shambles and I knew it was over. After twenty body years.
Over. I knew practically no one in this town either miss my then husband’s perfect family.
Who couldn’t exactly ever cotton to the Irish sassy lassy blonde from New York who stole the soul of their homeboy.
Nope, they could barely tolerate me, bless their hearts.
And if you’re from the South you notice exactly what the last allowance of that sentence means.
I was lonely and scared and had the wonderful flair and opportunity of telling that to my boon fellow Kathleen each and every day as we had fallen into that identical level of daily early morning phone gossip routine.
I’d already dropped my son at his kindergarten that September 11 morning and would come home to dub Kath, as usual, so that we could dram together and plan what I would do when I would finally flourish a crystallize of balls and vacate and we’d chat of what she would do if she noted to go back to work. Yup, the usual. Mostly.
That day though, article not usual. Her retain husband, Pete, whose hold career took him into the Twin Towers daily hadn’t recent in to the City on that day because he’d had an outside breakfast meeting to attend.
So we talked about that.
And how she hoped he might trellis there and find a new rank at his terminated company.
I can remember that particular phone denominate and the ensuing events if it were yesterday.
I was sitting on my son’s bed and had ‘Good Morning America’ on the television in the background.
We were speaking about nothing, she and I. Just nothing. As girlfriends on the phone often do. And, then, I spied, out of the cavity of my eye, an explosion producing plumes of smoke and a colossal burn attack to engulf that prime tower. I sat transfixed to the television.
I stammered and stumbled off the boy’s bed and shakily told Kath to turn on her tv. I was pacing and I was POSITIVE that some homely aspect co-pilot MUST have had a gist assault and tragically, mistakenly, misplaced subdue or even his life before slumping in his cockpit and careening into that building. I mean, what additional answer could there be? We sat in stunned silence, Kath on her modern and I on mine, and all I could hear above Peter Jennings rigid voice was our keep silent breathing on the phone.
We verbal nothingness to one another. Nothing. This situation literally.
Until she whispered, “that’s Pete’s building. ”
And, then, the unthinkable.
The second plane.
The end tower.
I don’t remember if we even uttered goodbye to one another. All I could conjecture of at that moment was my son.
And as my keep mother had done decades earlier, I gathered my wits and my keys and recognizeable to go and arrest him from his school. Grab him and nuzzle him confidential as could be.
Our individuals was subservient attack. The Pentagon had not yet been hit and Todd Beamer and those heros hadn’t yet “rolled” and yet, intuitively, instinctively, I knew I had to be with my boy.
At the moment that I opened my surpass door to leave, another companion whose son attended the duplicate school, pulled up in govern of my abode and motioned to me.
” C’mon El, let’s go!”
I jumped in the passenger seat and we didn’t have to chatter a object to one another. The pain was palpable.
I was shaking. She was smoking. And then I started to cry.
And, then, so did she.
My centre was breaking as I wondered if my first person from tall school, my gist sister Patty, had perished in her help in the best tower. Patty’s mother is the only ‘grandmother’ my son has ever known.
My posses mother had passed well before my lad was born.
His dad’s mother was not involved.
To this day he stagnant refers to Patty’s mom as ‘Nana,’ and to this day ‘Nana’ inert sends him a twenty dollar brochure every Christmas.
I wondered if Ava’s husband Michael was in his office in the second tower that morning. I am the godmother to their youngeset daughter Paige.
My extended families.
And, then, there were the friends.
I knew partly the perfect Cantor pledge trading floor. After having spent twenty years trading commodities on Wall Street, I knew a stack of family posting buy/sells in that building. Did they survive? Were they alive? Were their families watching these horrific scenes machination out the alike means I had been watching? I almost couldn’t plumb the worry.
The panic. The terror.
I couldn’t sound terrorists.
Driving nearly too slowly to the school, we sat, Dina and I stunned, sniffling, reveling, remembering (she’s from New York as well) until we took a left off the highest drag and drove up in vanguard of Broad Bay Manor. I don’t understand why, but we hadn’t expected what we saw. There, in the parking mountain was a throng of parents waiting for their tiny spawn too. Waiting in a car queue that snaked around the entire building. Twice.
All these parents coming to repossess their precious ones.
We were all doing the twin device that my hold mother had done all those many years ago when innocence shattered shook this country.
I look around for my son.
I dictate the blatant sorrowful of the sky.
The sun luminous so open it maltreat my eyes.
The air so terse and clean, not yet filled with the coming dread.
It didn’t parallel up, the events I’d moderate witnessed and the partly Divine perfection of the day.
It didn’t go together. Maybe it wasn’t real? Maybe it didn’t ensue after all? Maybe I would wake up and inert be in a crappy conjugal but wouldn’t keep to wonder if kinsfolk I knew and loved had died without warning.
And it was then, waiting in what seemed to be an interminable car line, that all of a sudden a song from Grayson’s infancy began to play, over and over and over again in my head.
See, my son was not a good sleeper as a bitty baby.
I was forced to develop some sort of soothing and nightly ritual and fashion to be able to lull him into any standard of slumber, a ritual that once worked through moreover worked well into his toddler years.
A ration of that ritual was playing the duplicate music cassette to and for him night after night after night.
For years and years and years.
His sentiment was Pavlovian.
Apparently mine was imprinted.
Because on that dulcet cassette was a poem put to song, the lyrics or lines written by the peaceful, cryptic and otherworldly poet Kahlil Gibran.
The utterance of that song now stuck singing out in my skipper as if they were being piped in by a Mothership sailing somewhere far, far in the heavens above.
I couldn’t totter them. I couldn’t halt them. Louder and louder. Competing with my uncommonly marrow trying to earn my absolute attention.
‘Your spawn are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s craving for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. ”
We inch up a nibble closer to the exit door of the school. I think I hear Dina gibber phenomenon about the radio recounting connections jumping from the upper floors of the towers.
They are jumping to their deaths, election that sliver of hope of survival as opposed to surely perishing by fire.
People are jumping. They are forming choices about the way in which they will, in all likelihood, die.
Others on the streets beneath guard unimaginable horror.
I drawing these images in my mind’s eye but can’t concentrate because that music, those poetic language from Kibran hold competing. They effectively permeate the outer din.
“You may apportion them your love but not your thoughts,
For they posses their posses thoughts.
You may dwelling their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the quarters of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
I see him. I finally see him. My boy.
His derisory blonde captain pops up every once in awhile bobbing between the two taller boys that are sandwiching him. He looks so happy.
He looks so little.
He looks around.
And he sees me.
And he waves.
Like infrequently boys who see their mother’s in vanguard of them often do. And I signal back. Although I can’t really make him out now additional than a wavy scheme since the tears in my eyes, tears of gratitude, tears of rapture at seeing him, tears of heartbreaking sadness and grief all converge and well up and prohibit me from really seeing anything, at all, clearly.
I perceive like I might not be able to see anything remarkably ever again.
The car continues to creep a bit further and the epiphany occurs.
And it sounds unbiased like the last lines of that Kibran poem:
“You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the ticket upon the revolution of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go express and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s workman be for gladness;
For even as He loves the indicator that flies,
so He loves further the bow that is stable.
Only affection survives.
And Patty did too. After the birth of her third teenager and unable to dodder that pregnancy weight, she’d been attending a Weight Watchers meeting in dilute Manhattan when the tragedies took place.
She remembers leaving the weigh in to run back to her office because she’d left her purse there.
A few feet out that Weight Watcher’s door some stranger rotten her around and told her to “run for her life.
” She did.
And was safe.
Only passion survives.
And Michael did too. He, like Kathleen’s husband Peter, had a meeting exterior his office that morning and although he’d foregone back to the towers, he’d been able to earn out of Manhattan and eventually make it home safely as well.
Only emotions survives.
The Cantor Fitzgerald traders did not.
Thousands of responders did not.
All those different aspect passengers did not.
“For even as He loves the bodkin that flies, so He loves also the genuflect that is stable.
Because, only heart survives.
Because our spirits are inextinguishable.
The sadness, the loss, the thirst for stillness bequeath fade and die.
Love and our spirits survive.
That is not a prayer. It is a promise.
Where were you on that mighty day?
Where was I?
No, I wasn’t utterance to Kathleen on the phone or watching Peter Jennings on tv. I wasn’t with Dina driving down Great Neck Road or hustings up my oblivious son from school. I wasn’t worrying and wondering about Patty, Peter, Michael or all the many others I knew working inside those two towers.
I was education firsthand that only emotions survives and that our spirits are inextinguishable.
I can only hope that many, many, many others have intelligent that duplicate same sermon since that duplicate day as well.
Because armed with that knowledge, rebirth can never ever be shot and killed again.