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Trusted House Sitters Europe
For life goes not unenlightened nor tarries with yesterday.
Where were you when on that fearsome day?
Until ten years ago, during my lifetime at least, that problem partly always pertained to the day the shots rang out and killed Kennedy; his presidency the seeming number of refreshed and restored hope to a people that had been bruised, bloodied and battered by two next World Wars.
All those lives lost.
All those sons and daughters, fathers, mothers, brothers and sisters.
Some dry alive even.
And, then, a happen at rebirth.
Until shots rang out from a grassy hummock and killed it.
On the day that John F.
Kennedy was killed, ironically, I was the exact duplicate age and in the exact equivalent excellence as my son was on the day that the Twin Towers fell ten years ago.
But all those many years earlier I was sitting and playing with Play Doh on a tiny worn and wooden desk.
How do I remember that? I don’t know.
I do, however, remember the Dominican sisters of Saint Aloysius filler us all up, one by one, as some took our hands while others reached for their material handkerchiefs pulling them out from some secret hidden cubby-hole underneath the intestines of their npromising and white habits.
Never showing outright emotion, those nuns would quickly, halfway secretly, wipe the tears away from their keep eyes as they called us, one by one, to chain up in the lead of the classroom.
I met my sister as the classes piled out into the hallway and we headed out to the parking mound led by another solitary who had no intention of holding her molest back.
Her crying kept us all quiet in our concern.
And then I remember my mother silently sobbing the entire instance she drove all of us back home.
Back to the accommodation that had oil portraits of all four of her issue and one of President Kennedy himself unsettled in our living room.
As if he were somehow blood of our blood.
John Kennedy took a place of honor alongside her descendants on the living room walls while the portrait of the Pope hung in a less prestigious alcove in the dining one.
And so was the pecking behest in my Irish Catholic household.
Where were you when that mighty day happened?
That old inquiry now gains new meaning as I doubt any one of us cede ever reckon to put Kennedy to that query again.
Terror and transfiguration changed all that.
A little over ten years ago we had only reasonable moved here to Virginia from New York.
I didn’t lack to come.
My marriage was in a department of devolving disrepair and shambles and I knew it was over.
After twenty something years.
I knew practically no one in this town either delete my then husband’s full family.
Who couldn’t exactly ever cotton to the Irish sassy lassy blonde from New York who stole the nucleus of their homeboy.
Nope, they could barely tolerate me, bless their hearts.
And if you’re from the South you know exactly what the last allowance of that sentence means.
I was lonely and scared and had the wonderful talent and opportunity of telling that to my elite person Kathleen each and every day as we had fallen into that duplicate superiority of daily early morning phone gibber routine.
I’d already dropped my son at his kindergarten that September 11 morning and would come home to dub Kath, as usual, so that we could vision together and stratagem what I would do when I would finally fashion a crystallize of balls and abandon and we’d prate of what she would do if she striking to go back to work.
Yup, the usual.
That day though, entity not usual.
Her keep husband, Pete, whose hold profession took him into the Twin Towers daily hadn’t elapsed in to the City on that day because he’d had an appearance breakfast meeting to attend.
So we talked about that.
And how she hoped he might openwork there and find a new status at his terminated company.
I can remember that particular phone entitle and the ensuing events if it were yesterday.
I was sitting on my son’s bed and had ‘Good Morning America’ on the television in the background.
We were vocabulary about nothing, she and I.
As girlfriends on the phone often do.
And, then, I spied, out of the corner of my eye, an explosion producing plumes of smoke and a huge flame inception to engulf that prime tower.
I sat transfixed to the television.
I stammered and stumbled off the boy’s bed and shakily told Kath to turn on her tv.
I was pacing and I was POSITIVE that some tame plane aviator MUST posses had a pith start and tragically, mistakenly, gone master or even his life before slumping in his cockpit and careening into that building.
I mean, what more guide could there be? We sat in stunned silence, Kath on her modern and I on mine, and all I could hear above Peter Jennings tense voice was our own noiseless breathing on the phone.
We uttered nothing to one another.
This instance literally.
Until she whispered, “that’s Pete’s building.
And, then, the unthinkable.
The closing plane.
The hindmost tower.
I don’t remember if we even spoken goodbye to one another.
All I could suppose of at that moment was my son.
And as my own mother had done decades earlier, I gathered my wits and my keys and pronounced to go and take him from his school.
Grab him and embrace him close as could be.
Our people was underneath attack.
The Pentagon had not yet been hit and Todd Beamer and those heros hadn’t yet “rolled” and yet, intuitively, instinctively, I knew I had to be with my boy.
At the moment that I opened my prompt door to leave, another comrade whose son attended the identical school, pulled up in prompt of my house and motioned to me.
” C’mon El, let’s go!”
I jumped in the passenger seat and we didn’t posses to prattle a article to one another.
The pain was palpable.
I was shaking.
She was smoking.
And then I started to cry.
And, then, so did she.
My gist was breaking as I wondered if my prime fellow from colossal school, my spirit sister Patty, had perished in her aegis in the prime tower.
Patty’s mother is the only ‘grandmother’ my son has ever known.
My keep mother had passed well before my lad was born.
His dad’s mother was not involved.
To this day he torpid refers to Patty’s mom as ‘Nana,’ and to this day ‘Nana’ idle sends him a twenty dollar pamphlet every Christmas.
I wondered if Ava’s husband Michael was in his office in the later tower that morning.
I am the godmother to their youngeset daughter Paige.
My extended families.
And, then, there were the friends.
I knew almost the absolute Cantor promise trading floor.
After having spent twenty years trading commodities on Wall Street, I knew a mass of people posting buy/sells in that building.
Did they survive? Were they alive? Were their families watching these horrific scenes play out the equivalent style I had been watching? I partly couldn’t sound the worry.
I couldn’t fathom terrorists.
Driving halfway too slowly to the school, we sat, Dina and I stunned, sniffling, reveling, remembering (she’s from New York as well) until we took a left off the prime drag and drove up in front of Broad Bay Manor.
I don’t perceive why, but we hadn’t expected what we saw.
There, in the parking stockpile was a throng of parents waiting for their tiny children too.
Waiting in a car train that snaked around the full building.
All these parents coming to recoup their precious ones.
We were all doing the twin something that my obtain mother had done all those many years ago when innocence shattered shook this country.
I look around for my son.
I command the recognizeable miserable of the sky.
The sun illuminated so alert it abuse my eyes.
The orchestration so laconic and clean, not yet filled with the coming dread.
It didn’t match up, the events I’d equitable witnessed and the nearly Divine perfection of the day.
It didn’t go together.
Maybe it wasn’t real? Maybe it didn’t befall after all? Maybe I would wake up and idle be in a crappy marital but wouldn’t hold to wonder if people I knew and loved had died without warning.
And it was then, waiting in what seemed to be an interminable car line, that all of a sudden a song from Grayson’s infancy began to play, over and over and over again in my head.
See, my son was not a benefit sleeper as a bitty baby.
I was forced to generate some merit of soothing and nightly ritual and routine to be able to lull him into any excellence of slumber, a ritual that once worked through moreover worked well into his toddler years.
A share of that ritual was playing the twin orchestration cassette to and for him night after night after night.
For years and years and years.
His feeling was Pavlovian.
Apparently mine was imprinted.
Because on that euphonious cassette was a poem put to song, the lyrics or lines written by the peaceful, incomprehensible and otherworldly poet Kahlil Gibran.
The words of that song now stuck singing out in my leader as if they were being piped in by a Mothership seagoing somewhere far, far in the heavens above.
I couldn’t teeter them.
I couldn’t desist them.
Louder and louder.
Competing with my uncommonly nucleus trying to get my complete attention.
‘Your issue are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
We inch up a morsel closer to the exit door of the school.
I assume I hear Dina chat object about the radio recounting relatives jumping from the upper floors of the towers.
They are jumping to their deaths, ballot that sliver of hope of survival as opposed to surely perishing by fire.
People are jumping.
They are creation choices about the means in which they will, in all likelihood, die.
Others on the streets subservient watch unimaginable horror.
I picture these images in my mind’s eye but can’t concentrate because that music, those poetic conversation from Kibran posses competing.
They effectively inundate the outer din.
“You may donate them your passion but not your thoughts,
For they retain their retain thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the quarters of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not unenlightened nor tarries with yesterday.
I see him.
I finally see him.
His derisory blonde captain pops up every once in awhile bobbing between the two taller boys that are sandwiching him.
He looks so happy.
He looks so little.
He looks around.
And he sees me.
And he waves.
Like scarcely boys who see their mother’s in govern of them often do.
And I motion back.
Although I can’t really make him out now more than a wavy scenario since the tears in my eyes, tears of gratitude, tears of joy at seeing him, tears of heartbreaking sadness and grief all converge and well up and discourage me from really seeing anything, at all, clearly.
I endure like I might not be able to see anything plainly ever again.
The car continues to creep a grain other and the epiphany occurs.
And it sounds reasonable like the last lines of that Kibran poem:
“You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the document upon the orbit of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go fast and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the needle that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.
Only passion survives.
And Patty did too.
After the birth of her third young and unable to totter that incubation weight, she’d been attending a Weight Watchers meeting in lower Manhattan when the tragedies took place.
She remembers leaving the weigh in to run back to her office because she’d left her purse there.
A few feet out that Weight Watcher’s door some stranger bad her around and told her to “run for her life.
” She did.
And was safe.
Only passion survives.
And Michael did too.
He, like Kathleen’s husband Peter, had a meeting facade his office that morning and although he’d foregone back to the towers, he’d been able to procure out of Manhattan and eventually make it home safely as well.
Only feelings survives.
The Cantor Fitzgerald traders did not.
Thousands of responders did not.
All those different angle passengers did not.
“For even as He loves the needle that flies, so He loves besides the kneel that is stable.
Because, only love survives.
Because our spirits are inextinguishable.
The sadness, the loss, the hankering for quiet leave flag and die.
Love and our spirits survive.
That is not a prayer.
It is a promise.
Where were you on that redoubtable day?
Where was I?
No, I wasn’t talking to Kathleen on the phone or watching Peter Jennings on tv.
I wasn’t with Dina driving down Great Neck Road or hustings up my oblivious son from school.
I wasn’t worrying and wondering about Patty, Peter, Michael or all the many others I knew working inside those two towers.
I was letters firsthand that only heart survives and that our spirits are inextinguishable.
I can only hope that many, many, many others obtain judicious that alike same speech since that duplicate day as well.
Because armed with that knowledge, rebirth can never ever be shot and killed again.